Statistics show that: 

  • 32% (494) of students report dating violence by a previous partner, and 21% (324) report violence by a current partner (The National Center for Victims of Crimes, 2012).

  • An estimated 5% (46) of college women experience a completed or attempted rape in a given year (The National Center for Victims of Crimes, 2012).

Numbers in bold represent the number of students at JCSU that could be impacted, according to studies, while matriculating through Smith!

What is Dating Violence?

Dating violence is controlling, abusive, and aggressive behavior in a romantic relationship. It occurs in both heterosexual and homosexual relationships and can include verbal, emotional, physical, or sexual abuse, or a combination of these.

How healthy is my relationship [PDF]? »

What is Sexual Assault?

  • A broad term that encompasses any forcible sexual activity that occurs without the victim's consent.
  • A range of behaviors that include, but are not limited to, unwanted kissing and fondling, forcible vaginal, oral, or anal intercourse, forcible vaginal, oral or anal penetration with an object or a finger.
  • A way for the perpetrator to exert power and control, not about "out of control" sexual desire.
  • Not gender specific. Sexual assaults can occur between a male and female, male and male, or female and female.
  • Everyone's problem!
  • Against the law.
  • A violation of an individual's body. It affects everyone including the victim, their family and friends.

What is Stalking?

Stalking is a pattern of threats or harassment that is directed repeatedly toward a specific individual and is experienced as unwelcome, intrusive, or fear inducing. It can include physical appearances of the stalker and harassing behaviors such as sending unwanted letters, phone calls, messages, gifts, and unwanted instant messages/email correspondence. Technology (such as email, IM, GPS, etc.) is often by stalkers as well.

Stalking log [PDF] »

*Material adapted from Virginia Tech.

What is Consent?

Consent means having permission. To get that permission, the following must be true:

  • Both parties are fully conscious.
  • Both parties have equal ability to act.
  • Both parties are positive and sincere in their desires.
  • Both parties have clearly communicated their intent.

It is the responsibility of the initiator in the situation to get the permission of the other person.

If one person uses force, threat, intimidation, or takes advantage of the other person's mental incapacities or physical helplessness (including incapacitation or helplessness due to alcohol), then there is no consent.

Each person also has the right to change her or his mind at any point--consenting to some sexual activity is not a blanket agreement to all sexual activity. Every person has control over her or his body.

Remember, in order to get consent you have to ask. Do not assume the other person is consenting by their actions or body language alone. Do not assume that if the person consented before, they will consent in the future -- you have to ask each time.

Consent handout [PDF] »

Personal Safety

Most of us are aware of safety tips that may help to protect us from violence from strangers such as:

  • inform those we trust about our whereabouts
  • observe our surroundings carefully
  • guard against giving identifying information to strangers, including Facebook, Twitter, Instgram, and other social media
  • buying and protecting our own drinks
  • staying connected with our friends

However, we are much more likely to be assaulted by someone we know. In those more commons situations, it is important to:

  • pay attention to any internal warning signs or "gut" reactions
  • be clear about our emotional and physical boundaries
  • avoid the excessive use of alcohol or other drugs
  • choose to exit situations whenever you feel anxious, even if you fear looking foolish or losing an argument
  • give yourself permission to put your needs first.

None of these suggestions are meant to imply that victims can cause or control the violence aimed at them by assailants. Victims do not cause violence aimed at them by assailants. Victims do not cause violence- abusers do. If you are assaulted or abused, you did not cause that act nor could you control it. However, you can get help to cope with the aftermath of an assault. Remind yourself of how you would respond if the violence had happened to your best friend. Treat yourself as you would a good friend:

  • get help for yourself
  • congratulate yourself for surviving
  • treat yourself gently
  • make whatever changes you need in order to feel safe
  • Contact “I Matter” to identify available resources

*material adapted from UNC-W Care

I Matter Homecoming [PDF] »

I Matter CIAA [PDF] »

The information on this page is maintained by the “I Matter” program. For more information or questions please contact them directly at 704.378.3550.