Stalking Information

Adapted from www.oasisinc.org

Are You Being Stalked?

Here are some common stalking behaviors. We have learned that stalking during a relationship or after it has ended is high risk behavior and if it is occurring to you or to someone you love, safety precautions must be taken. In most states many of these behaviors are also against the anti-stalking laws. When necessary, gather evidence and make police reports!


Common Stalking Behaviors

• Mailing cards or other cryptic messages
• Harassing/threatening victim’s friends
• Breaking windows, breaking into or vandalizing partner's dorm room or apartment
• Reviewing partner's email/Facebook page
• Leaving things such as flowers on in car, at work, or in dorm room/apartment
• Watching partner from a distance
• Hang up calls on the telephone
• Following partner with a car
• Following partner on foot
• Surveillance of partner in class
• Vandalizing partner's property
• Destroying property to scare or intimidate partner
• Stealing things from partner
• Filing numerous pleadings in court cases
• Harassing telephone calls or emails/text messages
• Violation of restraining orders

What To Do If You Are Being Stalked

• Realize that being stalked is not your fault
• Tell the stalker to leave you alone once. Do not give the stalker the satisfaction of a reaction again
• Be sure to tell a trusted friend or family member about the situation
• Contact your RA, RHC, Campus Security, and/or the JCSU Alliance Against Violence (in the Counseling Center)
• Keep a log of the stalking events. Be sure to keep all forms of communication from the stalker. (voicemail, phone messages, notes, cards, gifts etc..)
• If the stalker gets your home phone number or cell number, do not change the number. Instead, get a new unlisted phone number and only give this number to your trusted friends and family. By keeping your number the same the stalker believes they are still getting to you. Cutting off this communication may lead the stalker to find additional ways to communicate with you.
• Get a cell phone and keep it with you. If you do not have a cell phone, visit the JCSU Violence Prevention Coalition to receive a 911 equipped cellular phone.

“This project was supported by Grant No. 2005-WA-AX-0009 awarded by the Office on Violence Against Women, U.S. Department of Justice. The opinions, findings, conclusions, and recommendations expressed in this publication/program/exhibition are those of the author(s) and do not necessarily reflect the views of the Department of Justice, Office on Violence Against Women.”